Under normal circumstances, I'd adjust the all-caps title to MEET THE WHIMPSTER: THE MANIPULATIVE ASSHOLE IN SENSITIVE CLOTHING., a different version of which appears in this month's Bust, but it's a lazy Saturday afternoon, and I'm feeling lazy. And copy-and-paste-y. Deal.
The whimpster relationship is always the passive/aggressive stalker type.
Everyone's been in one of these... also known as: "hanging out", "coming over", "friends", "not my girlfriend", "whatever," "trading mix cds" or even worse: the pretend marriage.
This is the tricky part, because you realize that whimpsters really reveal more about your character than theirs. They prey on your insecurities by revealing their own. This is how you get stuck in a codependent, passive, jealous relationship with a whimpster you hopelessly try to fix, even though he won't let you. You'll spend a lot of time wondering why he's around, because his emotional unavailability is staggering. "If he's so sensitive, why isn't he even talking to me?"
There's also (in the magazine, not on the site) a brief history of vibrators and clitoral stimulation as a means of achieving orgasm, but it's pretty -- in fact, totally -- Western-centric. 'course, I'm not sure it's even possible to examine that in non-Western cultures, particularly from a historical perspective, since any first-person accounts from contemporary sources would, inevitably, reflect the biases of the (generally male) Western observ--
It's a lazy Saturday afternoon. Perhaps there's a better time for this discussion.